Why Marriage to Benny Blanco Made Selena Gomez Confront Her Mortality

Selena Gomez got married, felt sky-high happy... and then her brain hit the panic button. She talked about it publicly, which is rare and honestly pretty brave. Here is how it unfolded, and how she and Benny Blanco stepped back out in the spotlight right after.

What Selena actually said

At Fortune's Most Powerful Women conference in Washington, D.C., Gomez explained that days after her September 27, 2025 wedding to producer Benny Blanco, she was sobbing. Not because she doubted the marriage, and not because anything was wrong. Her words were basically: intense joy can set off a mental alarm.

"Okay, but this could all go away tomorrow, so how can I make sure that doesn’t happen?... I got married and then I was sobbing because I was like, 'I’m gonna die the next day.' I just think that’s a little life thing..."

She framed it as a psychological reflex, not a relationship issue: when the happiness meter redlines, her mind tries to protect her by imagining the worst. Not fun, but it tracks if you know her story.

The context that makes this make sense

Gomez has been open about bipolar disorder, anxiety, and depression, especially in her documentary 'Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me.' When your life is lived under a microscope, the highs can feel fragile. So the post-wedding tears were not a rejection of her new reality; they were her brain bracing against feeling too good.

Then they hit the red carpet

A few weeks later, she and Blanco made their first red carpet appearance together at the Academy Museum Gala in Los Angeles. Gomez wore a simple, fitted black gown and looked composed. Blanco stood beside her, steady as ever. The vibe was: that spike of fear has passed, and she can let the happiness breathe a little. A fan account even posted a sweet clip on October 19, 2025: 'Find someone who looks at you like Benny Blanco looks at Selena Gomez.'

Quick timeline

• Sep 27, 2025: Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco get married.
• Days later: She has a tearful crash, describing an intense, irrational-feeling fear of death that she links to the emotional high of the wedding.
• At Fortune's MPW in D.C.: She clarifies it was not doubt about the marriage, but a mental defense mechanism triggered by extreme joy.
• Weeks later: First joint red carpet at the Academy Museum Gala in L.A.; Gomez in a sleek black gown, Blanco at her side, signaling a calmer reset.

Why this matters

There is something quietly powerful about admitting that joy can be scary. Gomez turned a messy, very human moment into a conversation that a lot of people relate to, even if they do not say it out loud. If you want the deeper background on how she got here, her doc 'My Mind & Me' lays it out plainly. And if you have been tracking every step of her relationship timeline, yes, the wedding guest-list deep dive is out there too.